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How to be a Wanderlust

I tend to hear similar responses from people when I tell them about my travelling:

“Wow! You’re so lucky!”

“I wish I could do that!”

“You’re really living the dream life!”



You… you realize this can be you… right?

I don’t have these opportunities to travel and work around the world just land in my lap. Luck has NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS. I work hard and I do my research to figure out the most economically friendly ways for me to travel. I work hard to afford flights and travel necessities. I work hard so I can spend my life doing what I love.

“It’s not that easy.”

“No one has that kind of time.”

“Who’s got the money for all of that?”

You don’t understand: it really is as simple as making the decision to go somewhere and figuring out how to do it.


Sure, it’s going to be time-consuming, so you need to learn how to plan ahead. Me? I have my next several trips planned at least vaguely so I know not to make any long-term commitments I know I can’t keep, such as getting a full-time job.

Another thing people never seem to consider is the fact that people CAN work from different destinations. Look for job openings in Moscow or Rio or Zurich if North America just isn’t doing it for you. Look for volunteer opportunities in sunny, tropical climates. Look for mountain climbing lessons in the Himalayas. JUST TRY!

As for the money…

Okay, I get it. Most people can’t just drop everything and go on a $2,000 flight to Australia, but that’s why planning ahead is so important. I saved up for two years in order to afford my Thailand volunteer trip, winning $1,500 worth of bursaries and scholarships as well as holding down two different jobs and selling crafts to help raise the money I needed. YOU’RE GOING TO HAVE TO COMMIT AND WORK AT IT.

That being said, don’t you dare bitch and complain to me that you can’t go even though you “so very much want to go, oh golly”.

Stop it.

If you really wanted to go, you would find a way.



Flowers in Her Hair

She was born of mist and summertime,
Of longing, and of nectar and honey,
Of the worldly wonders that beckoned
Her toddler’s gaze
To golden horizons
That spread in front of her like her favourite bedtime story.
She was born of turquoise and topaz,
And she knew nothing of their worth
Only that they were of the Earth from which she came,
Emerged forth from like Venus,
Ready to tangle herself
In the lines etched on every map’s corner.
Her innocence and lasting grace
Painted life in her bare footprints
She placed in the grass
That marched forward into eternity,
Into unknown love and lust
And loss.
She treaded fingers over melodies
And learned how to tell stories
Of entire universes
Without saying a word,
Conversing only with fellow wanderlusts
And Flower Children.

Everything wrong with Bell Let’s Talk

Last year, I wrote a piece for this blog about the importance of Bell Let’s Talk and what it means to me.

I was really hoping that we made some sort of a change last year with ending the stigma towards people struggling with mental health.

But we didn’t.

Sure, Bell ended up raising $5,472,585.90 in 2014 alone through this campaign, yet somehow the stigma still stands. Why is that? Because Bell Let’s Talk isn’t working.

So this year, I’m going to try a different approach. I’m going to talk about everything that’s wrong with the Bell Let’s Talk event.

The largest problem with this campaign in my opinion is the fact that it makes an annual occasion out of a problem that lasts 365 (or 366) days a year. I have similar issues with the concept of Black History Month; we end up trivializing mental health by only talking about it on this one day, when it’s trendy and popular to talk about it. It’s like we are downplaying it’s importance, and that isn’t going to get the point across.

Of course, that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Even if we all hashtagged #BellLetsTalk every single day of our lives, it’s still just a hashtag. Most people who make use of this hashtag every Jan. 27 are doing so to raise money for a cause they don’t fully understand. NOT EVERYONE DOES THIS, but none of us seem to be doing much on educating those who know very little about the struggles of dealing with mental health. They know it as a hashtag, as a charity. They know it as something they try to listen about once a year and they know it as a statistic, a shared photo of a broken heart.

The real problem with Bell Let’s Talk is the fact that everyone seems to be talking about the “cute” and “lighter” side to mental health. Tweeting things like, “You’re not alone” just isn’t enough anymore. We need someone to talk about what mental health ACTUALLY DOES.

So here it is, the messy truth:

Having poor mental health isn’t about waking up one day and feeling like sleeping in bed until sunset. It doesn’t feel like a broken heart or a nervous mind. It won’t just take a hug or a listening ear to fix.

Having poor mental health is like being sick all the time. It is waking up with a sore jaw because you spend the night grinding your teeth. It is wetting the bed still and not being able to tell even your parents because they wouldn’t understand. It is biting your lips and gnawing your nails until they bleed. It is “accidentally” burning yourself on your candle and trying to convince yourself it is a goddamn ACCIDENT because you don’t want to admit you’re relapsing. It is crying on the floor of a public bathroom in your own vomit and blood because you’re so fucking scared all the fucking time. It is feeling like you’re not safe inside your own skull, because your mind is a large, black hole and you’ve never felt more lost in your entire life.

It is not romantic or cute to watch; it is terrifying.

Imagine watching someone you love be torn apart by a deadly killer, one that you cannot see or fight. It is enough to break your heart.

So this year, educate yourself on mental health and it’s importance before it’s too late and you end up learning about it only when it directly affects you.

Living Like This

Sometimes when I was really quiet, the voices would start.

Everyone has a voice, singular, in their head. It’s what they use when they’re reading newspapers or when they have pop songs stuck in their heads. It’s what people “hear” when they make-up conversations that will never transpire with people they will likely never see again. It’s what they are listening to when they absentmindedly talk to themselves. You probably don’t think very much of it.

But sometimes, I hear more than one.

It happens when days begin to blur together like strands of pearls on a necklace, each no different than the last. It happens when my fingers start twitching and my blood feels like fire in my veins. It happens on dark nights when I forget myself under the sheets of my bed where I lie, pressing my hands over my ears.

It happens, despite the endless pills and appointments and promises.

And when it happens, it starts with a crash, a bang, a disruption of my usual, familiar inner monologue.

Tonight for example, it started with a memory.

The first person I ever knew to die was my grandfather, who finally kicked the bucket when I was twelve. Some kind of cancer that was a result of years of inhaling nicotine was no doubt the COD, and I never even got to kiss him goodbye when he lay in his hospital bed, hallucinating in his final hours.

The nightmares came after that. I was at my grandmother’s house when something would call me into the basement: a voice. The stairs would creak beneath my feet as I trampled down them to get to the voice. I’d turn the corner to see my grandfather, smiling through a face that was rotting and full of maggots.

I’d run back up the stairs only to hear more voices coming from the bathroom. I’d open the door and he would be there, staring at me with dead eyes and holes that went right through his skin. The walls of the bathroom would ooze moss and mud and suddenly, the voices would get louder and louder until I woke, sweating in my bed.

It was the first time I heard the voices.

Now I know what you’re thinking: undiagnosed schizophrenic with paranoia, right?

That’s what I thought too, for a long time. But when the pills didn’t help and the treatments didn’t work, I started to doubt it.

“Yes sir,” I’d tell my doctor every month. “I can’t hear any more voices, sir. No, the dreams are gone. Yes sir, I’m sure.”

But every once in a while, like clockwork, they’d be back. For a while it was tolerable, even not bothersome sometimes. But they grew louder and more insistent, more urgent. It would feel like clawing and scratching at the back of my skull whenever they would start. I would rub my head in frustration until my palms were sore.

It wasn’t until one night when the worst of it came that my right ear started to bleed and I knew I wasn’t insane. Or at least, that this wasn’t purely psychological. It couldn’t be, right?

This time though, this time I was ready for them.

They began after a dinner of cold pizza and soggy salad consumed over the process of a few hours. I retreated to my bedroom and drew the curtains when I dropped onto the bed suddenly. I heard them then, loud and angry, at the back of my head.

I started scratching at the bald patch where hair no longer grew just above my neck. My nails were broken to the quick, a result of previous scratching, just like the bald spot, but I kept scratching.

The voices grew mocking in tone and some even began to laugh. I scratched harder, trying to free myself of them once and for all.



“Your fault.”

More laughter followed and my scratches grew desperate. I began to bang my head on the wall, which had often worked in silencing them before.


“Yes, tonight.”

BANG. BANG. BANG. I was pounding my head against the wall, blood beginning to drip from an old wound on my forehead. Tears swelled in my eyes but I refused to let them fall.

I knew what they meant when they said “tonight”. They had often spoken like this, threatening my death. They had been planning it for months now.

I knew then that tonight was the night I had to get them out of my head.

“He thinks he can win.”



“That won’t work boy, put it down.”

The final voice made me freeze, nail file poised in my left hand. I was ready to start using it to scrape at the back of my head when the voice spoke. It was the first time one of them had ever given me a direct order, or acknowledged that I could hear them.

“Of course we know you can hear us,” a different voice said in the same, eerie drawl. “We’ve known you could hear us ever since we first lured you into that basement.”

“A sane person wouldn’t have gone down there,” the first voice agreed.

Although I hadn’t said a word, the voices were now communicating with me. Or rather, with my inner monologue or “own voice”.

I started jabbing the nile file into the back of my head with such force that blood squirted out on the first blow.

I heard more laughter. “No, we’re not your grandfather,” a third voice whispered, answering my unspoken question.


“Hush. Soon.”

I started shaking so hard that I dropped the bloody file onto my bed. I frantically searched the room for another weapon while I tried to still my hands, which were growing cold.

“You’re a fool,” the first voice said.



“Have you never wondered who we are?”

They have asked this question before. The first few times I thought they were asking it to me, but seeing as they had never before responded to my own voice, I had assumed it was rhetorical. I kept scratching at my skull.

More laughter. It was a wheezing, sputtering, unearthly sound. It sounded like it was coming from right behind me.

“We are not death, no.”

“Hell’s demons.”

“Demons, he says!” This was followed by a low chuckle. A tapping sound began in the same place at the back of my brain that the voices seemed to originate from. This was followed by a scraping sound similar to nails on a chalkboard.

“You wish we were demons, boy,” said the third voice.




I started to sob then, blindly searching for my meds – sleeping pills, Cymbalta, Xanex, anything that would help cushion the voices from my ears.

“He thinks he’s scared now,” a fourth voice said in broken, half-English that sounded more like gargling.

“Wait until he realizes.”


I was crawling then, trying to get to the nail file again. Tears were running down my face, mixing with the blood from my head. I never thought the voices would actually be able to kill me until that moment.

I can’t remember where I dropped the file.

“You can’t file us away, idiot boy!” I think that was the first voice.

More gargling and hissing in some unknown language. I choked out a sob that shook my whole body. I was at the side of my bed by then.



“Aren’t you curious who we are?”

Under my bed I saw it. The shiny red corner of the tool box my father gave me for my thirteenth birthday, over fifteen years ago. I reach for it.

I heard the scraping sound in my head again and screamed. It was louder.

“You… want… to… know… RIGHT?” yet another voice croaked.

“Kill… KILL!”

“He thinks it will work.”

“SHUT UP!” I screamed, trying to open the tool box with hands slick with blood and shaking with a terror that was seizing my entire being.

But they only grew louder, closer. The pain in my skull was unbearable – searing, white-hot pain that racked the bone at the base of my neck up to the tip of my head.

“We are you.”

I froze, my hands gripping the hammer. “No.”

“We are fear. We are YOUR fear.”

“We are your anger, your fear.”


“We are exactly who you made us.”

I closed my eyes and swung the hammer.